A letter to my 16 year old self.

This is my last month being 26 so I thought this would be a good exercise for me to do (and hopefully some of you too) to put things in to perspective. My Mum has told me to this for a while now, I’ve been avoiding it but I feel like now is the perfect time to do it.

Here are some of the benefits of writing a letter to your younger self;

-Helps you heal parts of your past and give you closure on difficult parts of your life.

-Helps you gain clarity on areas of your life that are still being affected by your past.

-Helps you realise where you are not following your own advice.

-Helps you realise how much you have grown as a person and how far you still have to go.

If you have decided to do this too, let me know if it has helped you, and if you want to share you’re letter please do!

Dear Romy,

I want to start by saying, everything happens for a reason. You may not understand why now, but eventually you will see that nothing was every random. Life is not a race Romy, please enjoy your childhood, I know that you are mature for your age, but don’t grow up too quickly. I know every birthday you cry because you feel that time is running out, but listen, every year is a blessing. Give thanks and be grateful that God has blessed you with another year of life. Enjoy not having responsibilities but also plan for your future! STOP WASTING TIME. You can do anything you want to do, but spend you’re time wisely because you never know when your time is up.

Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. You have so much pride and everyone thinks you’re such a strong girl but its ok to not be ok sometimes. You don’t have to front for anyone either, the right people in your life love you for you. The ones that don’t, don’t deserve you’re time.

So lets talk about boys. Please believe when I tell you that you will look back and laugh at these boys you talk to now. Don’t even trip girl, you’re going to go through some shit before you meet the one. And even when you think you have met the one, he may not be. Focus on you. Don’t let them take you’re focus, when you get to your 20’s you will start to see you’re worth, you are going to be an amazing woman, the right one will come along when the time is right, trust me. In the mean time put yourself first and learn to see your beauty without a compliment, or a mirror.

Cherish the time you have with you’re family, one day they wont be there and you will miss every second you had with them. You’re Mum is you’re best friend, you can tell her anything never forget this, and listen to all that she teaches you because you may think its a bunch of hippy shit now but trust me, you will wish you took it in earlier. Be there for your Brother, you are his big sister, lead by example.

I know you are a Scorpio so this will be difficult for you, but you have to master the art of balance. Being so extreme isn’t going to help you. Life doesn’t have to be black or white,  you need to chill tf out sometimes honestly, truly. LOL

Lastly I want to say please have patience. You are such an impatient person but you need to understand that patience is a virtue, you cannot have everything now life doesn’t work that way. The blessing is in the journey not the destination.

Romy please do all the things that you have ever wanted to do. Travel, learn, live, love. But don’t force anything. You have one life and you will be 26 before you know it. Don’t worry though, enjoy the ride, there will be ups and downs but you will always get through it.

Love you.

Your 26 year old self.

2 thoughts on “A letter to my 16 year old self.

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  1. This is a great exercise. These are the type of things that make you all the smarter gender.

    Vulnerability is an important idea. I continue to struggle with it. I could blame it on the environment i grew up in and/or the position I currently hold. Truth is – it requires discipline that I have yet to show.

    For my letter – I would add two sections. One being comfortable with high expectations others may have for you. Dealing with high expectations and success is more difficult than failure.

    Second -I would thank myself for understanding my role in society, my community, and family from a very early age. And that all the hard work would pay off.


  2. Loved this post.. And loved this exercise but defo scared of sharing mine as it was a real eye opener and another reality check lol 🙈
    Thank you for being brave enough to share this letter to the world! I love your blog and can’t wait for the next post.


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